This World Mental Health Day, it’s a good reminder that mental health matters just as much as physical fitness. For men, talking about feelings or stress can be hard, but small moments of connection can make a real difference. That’s where the “dressing room effect” comes in – those chats after a game, weigh-ins, or even a quick WhatsApp message to your teammates.
James’ Journey: Finding Support on the Pitch
James, a member at MAN v FAT Norwich West, joined the club for more than just football.
“I wanted something that would help me get more active, lose weight, and build better habits, but also give me a reason to get out of the house and connect with other people who are on a similar journey. It’s as much about looking after my mind as it is about getting fitter physically.”
Before joining, he felt drained and stuck in a rut.
“Work was taking a lot out of me, and most days the only time I left the house was to go to work. That routine started to take a toll on my motivation and mood. I knew I needed something positive to focus on.”
How the Dressing Room Effect Works
The magic happens in those small, casual moments. Checking in, sharing a laugh, or even venting a bit can make a real difference. It can:
Reduce stress and feelings of isolation
Build stronger connections with your team
Keep motivation and confidence up
James noticed this early on:
“Even on weeks when nothing else is going right, just talking about it after the match helps. The chats give me a chance to check in with the lads, share a laugh, and know that everyone’s going through something similar.”
He also recalls a moment that stuck with him:
“There was one week when I’d had a tough time personally and didn’t really feel up for it. After the match, a couple of the lads just asked how I was doing and we ended up having a proper chat. It wasn’t anything huge, but that bit of support made a massive difference — it reminded me that I wasn’t on my own.”
Small Steps You Can Take
You don’t have to be a mental health expert to support yourself or your teammates. On World Mental Health Day, consider:
Asking a mate how their week’s been, not just how their game went
Sharing a little about your own week first – it can help others open up
Making post-match chats or weigh-ins a regular check-in
Keeping the conversation going midweek with a quick message or bit of banter
James has noticed a real change in his mental wellbeing:
“Being surrounded by like-minded people who understand what you’re going through makes a huge difference. The encouragement from teammates has really boosted my confidence, both on and off the pitch.”
Beyond Self-Help: Where to Get Support
While small chats with teammates can help, sometimes you need more support than self-help or banter can give and that’s completely normal. There are organisations and resources that can help with mental health, whether it’s dealing with stress, anxiety, low mood, or just needing someone to listen.
JAAQ – Real conversations about mental health from athletes and men, covering common issues and practical advice.
Mind – Guidance on mental health problems, local services, and coping strategies.
Samaritans – Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) – Confidential support if you need someone to talk to.
NHS Mental Health Helpline – Call 111 (select option 2) for urgent support.
James reflects on the importance of reaching out:
“There’s no weakness in asking for help. Sometimes talking to your mates isn’t enough, and using a service like JAAQ or just picking up the phone to someone you trust can be the start of real change.”
You don’t have to be in crisis to reach out. Even checking in with a service, reading advice, or making a call can give you new ways to manage stress and keep your mental health on track.
The Big Message
This World Mental Health Day, remember that small conversations can make a big difference. Whether it’s a chat after a match, a weigh-in check-in, or a message to a teammate, it all counts. James’ journey shows that even little moments of connection can help you feel supported and less alone.
Head to JAAQ to explore honest conversations about mental health and how to look after your mind.
